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For today’s post, I wanted to talk a little bit about body image, confidence, positivity and lots of other things in one personal, uplifting post. My body has changed so much since before the lockdowns, I lost weight due to eating better and working out, I then gained a bit of weight too because I stopped working out so much and started to grab for the comfort food. Since coming out of the most recent lockdown I have again lost weight. What comes with this body change though? Learning to love yourself again and building that confidence, whether you felt you had it before or not. To be honest I probably feel the most confident I’ve ever felt; even though I still have a little way to go to be exactly where I want which have come from the tips that I will include in this post.
There are a number of ways to feel more confident but it all starts with you and your thoughts. Flip your thoughts; if it’s raining don’t be thinking ‘ugh my hairs going to be ruined’ think about the fact you get to wear your favourite coat. It’s the tiniest little change but switching every negative into a positive, even if it’s a stretch, completely changes the way you see the world and your situation and eventually you’ll see this positive change appear into your life and the issues you can face.

Things I do to feel more confident;

  • THE Shower:

Remember that last time you had a function or a party or important plans where you had THE shower and wore a new outfit making you feel so great about yourself, well maybe we should do this more often. Take a little time for some self care, to do your full skincare routine, including your body because let’s be honest, we probably forget this more than we’d like to admit. From shaving, to exfoliating, to moisturising, maybe even pop on a bit of tan if that makes you feel good. A hair mask, some bath oil and all the other good stuff that you can take into the bathroom with you and just take some time for your self and make yourself a priority.

  • Pamper:

I suppose this is a run on from my first tip, but this is more treatment focused. I know I feel much more put together when my nails are painted, when I have a fresh hair cut and blow dry or even a massage. Things that you can head to a salon, take sometime out of your day and someone else can take the time to pamper you, that way you can just relax because you may not have time to do this very often now the world is getting busy again. As a beauty therapist myself, I see clients every couple of weeks coming back for their nails to be done or a massage to really give themselves time to de-stress, relax and get a treatment done that just makes them feel, well more like them. There are so many different treatments you can get that will completely tailor to your needs and it may only be 20-30 mins out of your day, but it can make the world of difference.

  • Clothes:
We can often be drawn to the new ‘in’ fashion trends and things we think look great on others but sometimes we don’t get that feeling of how great that particular outfit or look, looks on us or we can even be wearing clothes that don’t necessarily compliment our body types. So my biggest tip is to find your style. No matter how different it may be, or it may not be one particular style, but something you feel great in. From the colour, to the length, to the different waistlines. Find it, stick to it and you will eventually have a wardrobe full of clothes that you feel good in and when you feel good in something, confidence radiates out of you into other aspects e.g. your thoughts, feelings and behaviours etc. A great way to do this is to start with a wardrobe clear out and then look at what you have left, your favourite items particularly and you can go from there.
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identity green and black lingerie set
Not just when it comes to clothes, but underwear too. Does anyone else feel more put together when their underwear matches? I certainly do and it makes me feel a million dollars. Can we just talk for minute about how stunning this lingerie set and dressing gown are. They are handmade by Identity Lingerie which is a family run business. They’re really good quality and the detailing is incredible; I highly recommend checking out the stunning items on their website as they’re all handmade and we’ve got to be supporting small business now more than ever.
  • Working out:

Working out is probably the obvious one but I don’t just mean working out to lose weight, I mean working out to release the endorphins that give you that rush of positivity and make you feel good. Working out at home is great if that’s what your comfotable with, or find a class at the gym that you find fun to do as I feel exercise shouldn’t feel like a chore. Or even find something else that you enjoy that can give you the same kinda feeling afterwards e.g. horse riding/ swimming and even just a short walk. And obviously if there is a specific part of your body you’d like to work on, that can give you a confidence boost too when you start to see the results.

  • Following people with similar bodies to me:

The average person spends quite a lot of time on their phones nowadays, particularly on social media where we can be bombarded with models, celebrities, influencers posts. Editing, Photoshop, filters, the best angles and the best parts of everyone’s lives, that it can actually be doing more bad than good to ourselves and can even be quite a toxic place to spend our time. Obviously, we do know that not everyone looks exactly like their feed may suggest, certainly not all the time, but it can make us double take our rolls, stretch marks, big pores, acne/bacne etc. One of the best ways I have found that combats this is to follow more people with similar body types and shapes to me or those that show the ‘reality’ more often as this makes me feel more human and that everyone does get rolls, stretch marks or shaving bumps etc.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this post, I hope it helps at least one of you. Also, a special thank you to Identity Lingerie for working with me on this post, don’t forget to check out their stunning pieces and I will see you all soon with a new post soon!!

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